The holidays are generally revered as a joyous time. While often filled with celebration and togetherness, the holidays can also amplify feelings of loneliness for those who lack a supportive network. Survivors who have been isolated from their family and friends face an increased risk of experiencing feelings of depression and thoughts of self-harm. Domestic violence is a deeply complex and unique experience for each survivor. Despite the varying circumstances, the priority must always be the safety and well-being of those affected. Review the tips below to prevent isolation over the holidays:
Develop a safety plan: Survivors are the best determinants of their own safety and well-being. If avoiding your abuser over the holidays will increase the risk of danger, let’s safety plan!
Set clear boundaries: If spending time with certain people or discussing certain topics is triggering, pre-conceive an exit strategy and clearly state your boundaries. You don’t have to explain yourself.
Ask for help: It’s okay to ask for help. If you disclose abuse to a trusted person, and they don’t help you or take you seriously– tell someone else. Keep telling people until you are met with support and affirmation. Abuse is not your fault.
Check-in on your loved ones: Rally around survivors during this especially difficult time of year.
Utilize La Casa’s 24 hour, Statewide, Toll-free Crisis Lines: Adult Crisis Line: (877) 503-1850, Teen Crisis Line: (877) 923-0700, Text Line: (415) 200-3575